My understandings to my husband won him over to the church.

Last saturdy morning, I was lying down on the bed and my husband was watching TV sitting on the couch beside my bed!

My husband talked to me, now you have  changed a lot, you surf too much and telephone too many, no time to communicate with me. Tomorrow you don't go to the church. Usually he supports me, I don't know why he said that to me at that moment. I felt very upset. and said, how much I did for the family and at the same time the sisters asked me what to pray, I told him I always think about your business and wish you have many deals on your business, if like that, I won't do that any more... we argued very loudly, and nobody gave in... Suddenly I saw my husband throw our TV remote control so hard, it split halves, everything is out-battery and rub press buttons piece... My son wanted to pick it up and I said to him, I said to him very calmly, " Jackie, just leave it alone." my son talked to my husband, " daddy, it's broken." " We don't need that any more." said my husband lowly.

Then my husband took my children out to eat Mcdonald that I promised Friday. After they were gone, I felt so gulty and tears couldn't helping running down. How could I , as a wife , make my husband feel that way... I think many things what I did, gradually I clamed down and I fixed the remote control, at the beginning, it didn't work, then I install back and forth for a few times, eventually it works. I was so happy.
one hour later, my husband came back with my two children,  I waited for 5 minutes then Went out of bedroom to living room, I saw my husband lying down on the couch with his eyes closes. I went close to him and pat him gently, and said, " sorry."  " nothing is sorry." answered my husband. Then I went to the kitchen and peeled an apple for my husband and started my cooking.

after lunch, my husband went to his office. Around 7:00, I received his call, he wouldn't come home to eat because he was with one of his bosses and they would go out to eat. I felt a little bit disappointed... around 10 I received his another call, he told me he was on the way home, I was very happy at that moment. After home, around 10, we sat on the bed watching TV, all the sudden, " tomorrow I will go to church with you!" I was very excited in my heart. But I didn't show much, and said, "good!!"

The next day we went to church together, it happened gong mingpeng brother gave us a speech, a very good speech. my husband and I enjoyed it very much.
This Sunday we went there, too.  we feel so good, even include my two children.

Our life is getting better and better...

You and your husband shouldn't argue at the first place, after your husband said that you telephone too much, you shoulded just say that you will telephone less...so both of you won't be so upset...or mad at each other.........at least, the remote won't be broken...

yeah, church is a very good place for you both to purge youselves of your sins.

BUT, be careful! never go overboard! Please bear in mind ------Cult

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mmh, i think Ghost has got a point here. the story pulled a string in the back of my heart by mirroring a thought i am not unfamiliar with.

in addition to mingyu's understanding of her husband, i see a good man, a considerate husband, and a loving father in the story. after the initial dispute, he went with the children to have breakfast out in a McDonald's and then, he came home looking tired. when mingyu padded him and said sorry to him, he responded "it's okay. i am fine now." he left for work until late night. when he came home again, he announced that he would go church with his wife. what a change! and What a man could make that change in less than a day!

my salute to you, not to the wife, but the husband!

adelyn, I am very much against your bloody censorship, ok, from now on our friendship is over.

I always enjoy the freedom of speech

Bye, and I will never be back here, I am sorry to visit your damn village.

lol!!! .......friendship is really important...I will never end it so easily like u did , rollingstone...

I don't understand Rollingstone's overreaction.
I personally think Adelyn's words are ad rem.. being a family member, we need to promote that kind of exchange as what Mingyu's couple did.

I hate the family quarrel ......

rollingstone, please! i did the censorship because i had no other choice. Backchina has rules. our English Field board is part of the "green (healthy)" area of the website and is guaranteed not to be censored by mainland China's Internet authority. many of the visitors to our board are from mainland. if our board becomes a non-green board, their connections to our board will be denied and their freedom of Internet access lost. for this, i need your help and understanding to keep our board afloat in the big family of Backchina.

and you may put your words back if you really want to. all i will do is to pray we will have a good luck.

Adelyn is right.Besides that he/she? is doing this for Backchina as a healthy website---(that's main reason that as a mainland resident visited and fell in love with it.) Adelyn is also right in his viewpoint.Mingyu has got a really good husband.I am also a wife and I am really touched after reading this story.

Rollingstone, Actually thanks for your caring for us. You are right, my husband and I are from a poor family, Maybe at that time we were really poor, as it is  well known, the condition at that time in countryside of China was  bad . But after I gratuated, my boyfriend-my current husband pay off my loan from University all by himself. And I got a chance to teach  Chemistry in a high school in Beijing. My husband worked in Beijing coal science research institution. He was a backbone in his department andi good at everything, he always brought rewards from work to surprise me. During that period, I think we are rich  both in materials and spirit. So we changed our situation through our own efforts.

After here for over 4 yrs, our life is becoming better and better. My husband is a Finacial security advisor, he got life insurance license and mutual fund license, and recently he got CFP (certified Finacial Planner) certificate, which is hard to get for many people. My kids go to daycare every day. we go to church just wants them to get better education. I like the feeling going to the church. It helps us grow healthily. I feel very guilty because I don't believe in god yet, but hopefully one day I will be touched to believe in god. I think church is a good place to go, because people there are so nice, help each other, show love to each other, you will find a feeling of a really big family. No matter you go or not, In canada religion is free, you can have  religion freedom , according to what I know, Most canadian have religions, they are variety.

Hi, Ghostcather, you are right, I agree what you say as a bystander. I don't know why I didn't do that as a party. I didn't  feel regret about our arguement. on the contrary, I am thankful for my husband spoke out his feeling and through this way, we found a  good way to solve the problem, which satisfies  us both from the result.

Maybe you don't know, marriage sometimes needs  proper arguements in some  certain time  to boost the relationship between husband and wife.

Adelyn and nozone, thanks for your complimentary words. To tell you the truth, I feel lucky at the bottom of my heart I have found a good husband, a good father of my two children. My husband is so patient to his chilren. and he is knowledgeablt and he always soothes me when I feel uncomfortable. Maybe you will say, since you find such a good husband, why don't you treat him well? A saying goes well, every person has his or her own temper. Sometimes it is hard to control, because I am  a regular people, my ability is so limited including my understanding to my husband. however, I think we will communiate with each other more and understand more!!

ok, I'm begining to understand...


and, lol...looks like what rollingstone said is true, he won't come back anymore....that's sad..

it's my fault.

he is a good story teller and i will post here a part of a big story he wrote.

Adelyn and Ghostcatcher, Don't be sad and sorry. Hopefully one day rollingstone read what we wrote, and then he would come back in the near future!!

I hope so..

rollingstone, where are you? why you don't come back? we are very disappointed at this!! come back! please, please!!!!

he probably won't...