Join the American "Mainstream"? Listen to Me!

People who are new to this country, used to hypocritically advise other newer people: "If you want to have a better life, you must do all you can to enter the mainstream society (Usually denoting the American society).

That is a phony advice, I cannot help but laughing with lament that he who gives such advice to other is nothing but impostor and hyprocrite.

Just as Confucious said: "Fouls and animals are not the same ethnic, they cannot stay together"! This is quite true in describing American ethnical society.

Many Chinese girls have married foreigners. At first they may think they have fused herself into the White society. Yet they finally found they are still separated from them. Take a look at the American social or family party. When the white men and white ladies are chatting together, they are talking and laughing loudly with foods and drinks on hands. You seldom see a Chinese lady among them. They don't want you to join them either unless you are a native born.. You are treated just as an estranged guest.

The white families like to hold family party, but they may not even invite the white man who married with an oriental woman. Their reason is, they got nothing to talk about with a different ethnic. You want to join them, they don't want to accept you!

In the solemn occasions, say, like the public official election campaign, white people cast their votes to the white, they will not cast their votes to the colors, especially to a Chinese!

To my knowledge, very few Chinese ladies who married with white men have had a real happy life. It is not their material lives but spiritual lives. For such marriage, even it can last to the end, it is a long long road of loneliness.

So, forget about that phony slogan which urges you to joint the mainstream of Americanization. There is no way to join the "mainstream" unless you are a native born.

People may ask, "If so, there is no happiness to any immigrants on this new land"? "Why are there still so many people coming"?

My answer to these people is, "Yes, there is happiness and happy life here." All you havve to do is to build your own "mainstream"; stay together with your own ethnical people, and build your own society!

This is my 30 years experience as a Chinese American that hopefully you can find some references of.

Best Wishes, may I ask if this is your own writing?

If it is, I would like to fix a tag 原創 (original work) on the thread so that it can be distinguished from other postings and be listed in Backchina's 原創區.