辦公室爭議守則

1.REMEMBER: In a fair fight there is no winner or loser.

2.The aim of fair fight is a SOLUTION!

3.Be specific when you bring up a gripe.

4.Don』t just complain.  Ask for a reasonable change that will relieve the gripe.

5.Confine yourself to one issue at a time.  Otherwise, you may skip back and forth, evading the hard issues.

6.Do not allow counter demands to enter the picture until the original demands are clearly understood and, there have been clear-cut response』s to them.

7.Always consider compromise.

8.REMEMBER: Another person』s viewpoint is just as real to them as yours is to you, even though they may differ.

9.NEVER believe that you know what another person is thinking until you ask him or her in plain language.

10.Do not assume or predict how another person will react, or what he or she will accept or reject.

11.Sarcasm is dirty fighting.

12.NEVER put labels on a person while fighting.  FOR EXAMPLE, do not call them a coward or a child.  If you really believed that they were so helplessly flawed, you probably would not be with them.

13.Ask for and give feedback of the major points, to make sure you are heard and, to assure your partner that you understand what they want.

14.DO NOT use past events as weapons!  Stay in the here and now.  Ask for changed that can begin now.  CHANGES CANNOT BE RETROACTIVE!  Hurts, grievances and irritations should be brought up at the earliest moment.

15.MEDITATE:  Take time to check your real thoughts and  feelings before you speak.  Don』t be  to close you eyes and think.

16.Remember that there is never a single winner in a fair fight.  Both either win a batter relationship, or both lose it.

in my own opinion, very hard to follow up as mentioned. i have been facing office aguement or fight most of time.

just let me have a try next time.

沒有中文翻譯，看不懂。因為接觸辦公的英語很少的啊。