心不甘，情不願

老公在美一所三流大學念毒理master，兩年了，和美國（白人、男）老闆鬧的不愉快，我自認老公很聰明，並且有水平，我老公總埋怨老闆水平差，可人家也是教授

不管怎麼樣，就是現在到了很僵的地步了，今天老公居然說他老闆再找他麻煩，我們就回國去！我老公脾氣很倔的，如果真的回去，我心不甘啦！

我現在懷孕，五月底生小孩，我到這邊快一年了，因為懷孕也因為沒有毅力，考試一個沒考，我是想在美國讀些書再回去的，這樣一來，我們一家不是白白折騰兩年嗎？什麼也沒有得到，回去也照樣什麼都不是，我老公是國內研究生畢業，而我還只是本科，我們一家將來怎麼辦？

我是想呆在美國要不讀個學位，（我老公當然要PHD畢業，而我也要讀個master）要不就得掙一筆錢回去，而我們兩千刀存款還不到（我們沒有打工），就這樣回去，我實在心不甘，情不願！！！

請大家支招！ [:441:]

該忍的時候還是要忍,許多人都是這樣過來,...包括我自己.

Why not transfer to another professor or another university? It is very normal to change the professor/university in the US.  There are so many chances out there.

轉學校吧?
如果你們都是F簽證,恐怕不太可能找到額外的工作.

It was courageous of you to speak out about your concern. Like the other folks recommended, there are several alternatives you can work out a solution to fit you. The current situation is actually not so bad. The bottom line is that both of you live together in the US, and you are expecting a US citizen to be part of your family soon. Your husband can do research under another professor or transfer to another school or program. That』s very usual. My recommendation to your husband is to be part of the solution, and work out with his advisor on the task at hand, at least for a short term before he can be transferred to somewhere else. Meanwhile, do your wifely best to help him understand what you need from him, to succeed him in his master degree in the US. Don』t give up. He just needs to get over the hump and there will be many in your lives.

你老公不要半途而廢，太可惜。
退一步，海闊天空。

謝謝大家，我們會的，我們不會就這麼放棄的。

這幾天我老公冷靜了很多，我會盡到一個妻子的責任去勉勵他，鼓勵他的。謝謝！