To A Friend

Today I chatted online with a friend for quite a while. She told me a sad story of her own. I tasted her sorrow between her lines of words. I visualized the helplessness at the other end. To me, it was like re-living all the similar feelings that I had once been through, though, they didn』t stem from the same kind of source. I really wish I could be of even a faintest bit of help. I guess I didn』t manage to be.

Somehow, I recall a psychological experiment. A mouse was put in a wire cage. A sheet of transparent glass was placed outside the cage door in order to prevent the mouse from fleeing from it. The mouse could see through and of course tried relentlessly to get out of the cage. Each time it ran into something it couldn』t see and hit itself badly. After a certain period, the glass was removed and the mouse was free to leave. But, it wouldn』t. It knew only too well that it would only hurt itself by trying to escape.

Sometimes, we are that mouse in the cage and we ourselves place that sheet of transparent glass outside the cage. We even tell ourselves that attempts to break out bring about nothing but only more wounds. So, we choose to stay in, with the knowledge that freedom is only a few steps away.

There is no need, either, to try to force sad memories out of your mind. That only means that you are indulging yourself in mourning over the past, which makes things even worse. Any moment you think about forgetting about it, you are still in the doorless cage.

As a matter of fact, we don』t choose whether to remember or to forget. Time does all the wonders. So, leave that to it.

When one day you look back with a peaceful mind, viewing it as just one of those days C days when you toddle and tumble along your path of growing older and wiser, then you will know that you are now a free and happy mouse, out and breathing the soothing fresh air which only those who are out of the cage can.

I wish that my friend would be that free and happy mouse soon! I wish that we would all be out and breathing the fresh air, together.

I hope that this post reaches that friend.

perhaps you can do more! you see it so clear, you understand it so well.
a mouse is a mouse, without help she can not get out from the cage.
sometimes people like that mouse, or even worse than a mouse, people know what to do, but they don't do it, or they don't want to...