標題: 雙語美文：三個秘密告訴你快樂生活很容易 [列印本頁] 作者: 魔之右手 時間: 2015-11-27 17:15 標題: 雙語美文：三個秘密告訴你快樂生活很容易 When author Gretchen Rubin embarked on a yearlong "Happiness Project" to figure out what true happiness looks like and how to actually -- realistically -- achieve it, the experience led her to some powerful revelations. Among them are Rubin's practical "secrets to adulthood," the principles she's managed to grasp as she has become an adult.
Even though some secrets on the list may not be particularly profound, each one becomes a true revelation once you finally figure it out for yourself. And together, these principles help move you toward a happier life.
雖然列出來的秘密中有些可能不是特別高深，但等到你自己領悟到的那一天，你會發現每一條都是實實在在的。
Though Rubin acknowledges that her list of secrets is evolving and, as she tells Oprah during an interview on "SuperSoul Sunday," others may have different things on their own list, there are still three major secrets that seem to be universal.
1. PEOPLE DON'T NOTICE YOUR MISTAKES AS MUCH AS YOU THINK THEY DO.
1. 人們沒有你想象中的那麼關注你的錯誤。
Everyone stumbles in life, some more than others. But regardless of the scale of a screw-up, many of us end up feeling as if there's a massive spotlight on our missteps and flaws. It's an incredibly common concern, but Rubin has learned that it's mostly unfounded.
"We all feel like everyone's paying attention to us," she says. "But they're paying attention to a lot of other things."
「我們覺得每個人都在關注自己，」她說。「但其實人們還有很多其他事情要關注呢。」
Even someone as well known as Oprah has come to realize this. "Every time somebody would say something about me that wasn't true, I would get so upset," she admits. "It was Quincy Jones who said to me one time this exact law of adulthood. He said, 'Baby, if you knew how little people were thinking about you, you wouldn't even be upset.'"
You may understand this idea in principle, but welcoming it into your life as a practice is a real game-changer. And yet, asking for help is something that many adults -- including Rubin -- have a hard time doing.
"I don't understand why I struggle with this so much," she says. "It's OK to ask for help. And usually when you ask for help, you get help. Things get easier when you ask for help."
Strange, but true, Rubin says. As an example of this, she points to a story from a man who had been spending a lot of time at the bedside of his very sick father.
魯賓說，這很奇怪，但卻是事實。她舉了一個人的例子，這個人花了很多時間陪伴卧病在床的父親。
"His father had been a terrible father, so they didn't have a loving relationship. It was no fun to go to the hospital. And [the son] was saying, 'I don't know why I'm doing this,'" Rubin says. "Well, he wanted to be a good son. So, in one way, it was making him happy because he was being a good son."
This shift in your view of happiness is important to keep in mind. "People act like happiness is always going to send us skipping down the street. It doesn't always work out that way," Rubin says.