人生在於完整[分享]

☆★☆  人生在於完整  ☆★☆

       once a circle missed a wedge. the circle wanted to be whole, so it went around looking for its missing piece. but because it was incomplete and therefore could roll only very slowly, it admired the flowers along the way. it chatted with worms. it enjoyed the sunshine. it found lots of different pieces, but none of them fit. so it left them all by the side of the road and kept on searching. then one day the circle found a piece that fit perfectly. it was so happy. now it could be whole, with nothing missing. it incorporated the missing piece into itself and began to roll. now that it was a perfect circle, it could roll very fast, too fast to notice the flowers of talking to the worms. when it realized how different the world seemed when it rolled so quickly, it stopped, left its found piece by the side of the road and rolled slowly away.

     
      the lesson of the story, i suggested, was that in some strange sense we are more whole when we are missing something. the man who has everything is in some ways a poor man. he will never know what if feels like to yearn, to hope, to nourish his soul with the dream of something better. he will never know the experience of having someone who loves him give him something he has always wanted or never had.

      there is a wholeness about the person who has come to terms with his limitations, who has been brave enough to let go of his unrealistic dreams and not feel like a failure for doing so. there is a wholeness about the man or woman who has learned that he or she is strong enough to go through a tragedy and survive, she can lose someone and still feel like a complete person.

       life is not a trap set for us by god so that he can condemn us for failing. life is not a spelling bee, where no matter how many words you』ve gotten right, you』re disqualified if you make one mistake. life is more like a baseball season, where even the best team loses one-third of its games and even the worst team has its days of brilliance. our goal is to win more games than we lose.

      when we accept that imperfection is part of being human, and when we can continue rolling through life and appreciate it, we will have achieved a wholeness that others can only aspire to. that, i believe, is what god asks of us---not 「be perfect」, not 「don』t even make a mistake」, but 「be whole.」

       if we are brave enough to love, strong enough to forgive, generous enough to rejoice in another 『s happiness, and wise enough to know there is enough love to go around for us all, then we can achieve a fulfillment that no other living creature will ever know.

從前有一隻圓圈缺了一塊楔子。圓圈想保持完整，便四處尋找失去的那塊楔子。由於它不完整，所以只能滾動很慢。一路上，它對花兒露出羨慕之色。它與蠕蟲談天侃地。它還欣賞到了陽光之美。圓圈找到了許許多多不同的配件，但是沒有一件能完美地與它相配。所以，它將它們統統棄置路旁，繼續尋覓。終於有一天，它找到了一個完美的配件。圓圈是那樣地高興，現在它可以說是完美無缺了。它裝好配件，然後滾動起來。既然它已成了一個完整的圓圈，所以滾動得非常快，快得以至於無暇觀賞花兒，也無暇與蠕蟲傾訴心聲。圓圈快奔急騁，發現眼中的世界變得如此不同，於是，它不禁停了下來，將找到的那個配件留在路旁，又開始了慢慢地滾動。


       我覺得這個故事告訴我們，從某種奇妙意義上講，當我們失去了一些東西時反而感到更加完整。一個擁有一切的人其實在某些方面是個窮人。他永遠也體會不到什麼是渴望、期待以及對美好夢想的感悟。他也永遠不會有這樣一種體驗：一個愛他的人送給他某種他夢寐以求的或者從未擁有過的東西意味什麼。

       人生的完整性在於一個人知道如何面對他的缺陷，如何勇敢地摒棄那些不現實的幻想而又不以此為缺憾。人生的完整性還在於一個男人或女人懂得這樣一個道理：他（她）發現自己能勇敢面對人生悲劇而繼續生存，能夠在失去親人後依然表現出一個完整的人的風範。

       人生不是上帝為譴責我們的缺陷而給我們布下的陷阱。人生也不是一場拼字遊戲比賽。不管你拼出多少單詞，一旦出現了一個錯誤，你便前功盡棄。人生更像是一個棒球賽季。即使最好的球隊比賽也會輸掉1/3，而最差的球隊也有春風得意的日子。我們的目標就是多贏球，少輸球。

       我們接受了不完整性是人類本性的一部分，我們不斷地進行人生滾動並能意識到其價值，我們就會完整人生的過程。而對於別人來講，這隻能是一個夢想。我相信這就是上帝對我們的要求：不求「完美」，也不求「永不犯錯誤」，而是求得人生的「完整」。

       如果我們勇敢得能夠去愛，堅強得能夠去寬容，大度得能夠去分享他人的幸福，明智得能夠理解身邊充滿愛，那麼我們就能取得別的生物所不能取得的成就。

i think in this article, circle means 圓, not 圓圈.
only 圓 could be missing a wedge, 圓圈 could only be missing an arc.

inspiring!

thank you Blue Ivy, you always brought us some inspiring thoughts!

i like this story very much, especially this paragraph hereunder:

life is not a trap set for us by god so that he can condemn us for failing. life is not a spelling bee, where no matter how many words you』ve gotten right, you』re disqualified if you make one mistake.

if we are brave enough to love, strong enough to forgive, generous enough to rejoice in another 『s happiness, and wise enough to know there is enough love to go around for us all, then we can achieve a fulfillment that no other living creature will ever know.

關於[缺陷]與[滿足]的寓言

一次偶爾的機會，看到了一則頗有深意的漫畫。那是一個不完整的小球去尋找它身上所缺的一角，可是當它千辛萬苦找到了那一角，並看似成為一個完美的球時，它卻選擇了放棄，丟下了那一角回到了從前，這是為什麼呢？我想當你看完這則寓言后，一定就會找到答案了。
故事是這樣開始的：一個快樂的小圓發現自己身上缺了一角，便決定去找那丟失的一角，於是帶著這個願望就快樂的上路了。它一路上邊走邊唱，有時和小蟲子說說話，有時還聞聞花香，偶爾蝴蝶還會在它身上停留一會兒``````雖然也遇到了風霜雪雨，上山下山的艱難，有時還逃不了跌入土坑的遭遇，但是它並沒有放棄，繼續地尋找。
直到有一天它看到了一個角，一個好象是很適合自己的角，但是那一角卻說：「我不是你的一角，我是我自己的一角。」它很失望地離開了，接下來又遇到了幾個角，可是不是大了，就是小了。可是它仍然沒有放棄，繼續尋找屬於它自己的一角。
真是功夫不負有心人，它終於找到了它尋找已久的那一角，它很開心。可是就當它成為一個完整的球時，它發現它已經和以前的自己不一樣了，它走的很快很快，它控制不了自己的速度，已不可以停下來再和小蟲子說說話，也不可以再聞聞花香，那美麗的蝴蝶也無法再停在它背上，更令它難過的是它也不能再唱歌了。它只能一個勁的往前滾，其他的卻什麼都不可以了。後來，後來``````，你們就都知道了。
是的，它放棄了那一角，回到了從前的自己。
正如小球一樣，人也喜歡去追求一種完美。其實世界上沒有一個人的生命是完整無缺的。俗話說：「金無足赤，人無完人。」其實，有時候缺陷也是一種美。只要自己覺得快樂就夠了。人要學會滿足，知足者常樂嘛。
當然，追求的過程是美好的，值得回憶的。不管結果如何，畢竟曾經嘗試過，也只有這時，你才會明白，其實你所擁有的東西遠遠比沒有的要多得多，你也會發現你所追求的雖然是自己生命的一部分，但也許並不是最重要的一部分，而你所擁有的對你來說才是最重要的。


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i have see the flash of this story but i could not remember where it is.

This article is very  profundity！