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標題: 各位兄弟姐妹給支個招:如何對付這些美國鬼子?被冤枉了,能就這麼算了嗎? [列印本頁]

作者: travel1111 時間: 2009-3-7 14:28
標題: 各位兄弟姐妹給支個招:如何對付這些美國鬼子?被冤枉了,能就這麼算了嗎?
我在美國一所中學當EDUCATION AID, 平時工作勤勤懇懇, 與人為善. 昨日忽然被校長廣播叫去談話,並且倆個校長在場, 問我是否在工作時喝酒了? 我莫名其妙, 文有什麼證據? 居然是有人報告我聞起來有酒味. 天那! 我是個女的, 我根本沒有喝酒的習慣.我當然否定,問僅憑SMELL 就能斷定? 我問是誰報的,可以當面對質. 回答說有兩個人說的. 這更不可思議了! 我堅持說我不會做這樣的事. 回到教室后我質問我們一組的Teacher:Miss Lamb, 她是我們這兒的BOSS, 底下一共還有其他4位像我這樣的EDUCATION AID, 我們是一個TEAM. 我說:"MISS LAMB, SOMEBODY IN OUR CLASSROOM IS REALLY MEAN TO ME, REPORTED ME DRUNK JUST BY SMELLING!" 我忍不住哭了. 因為有學生在場, MISS LAMB 讓我到另一間教室. 正好同我一起工作的PAUL 和MARY 先後進來,他們也非常吃驚. 不相信. 他們走後, MISS LAMB 和倆校長都進來了,我說怎麼能憑SMELL 就能斷定我喝酒了? 如果這樣,是不是我也可以天天SMELL然後去報告別人喝酒? 我有權知道是誰報告的. THEY ARE LIAR. THAT'S UNFAIR TO ME.
我邊哭邊訴說我感到不平的事. MISS LAMB 企圖打斷我, 不想讓校長們知道更多. 就說:"是我報告的, OTHERS REPORT TO ME, IT'S MY JOB TO REPORT THIS". Miss Lamb聲明她有權不告訴我報告人的姓名.我說:"你是在偏袒他們.That's not TRUE, THEY ARE LIAR. " 這時, 校長和Miss Lamb 都說他們相信我, 這件事就這麼算了. 我說不能就這麼算了, 我不是對Miss Lamb報告這件事生氣,是對他們故意給我潑髒水生氣.我要個公道, 我要他們給我們Team的教師一起開個會,把事情說清楚. 他們拒絕了,一定堅持就這麼算了. 我說如果就這麼算了,誰能保證不會發生第二次,第三次? 我不能讓別人這麼不尊重我. 各位網友說說看，我能就這麼算了嗎？我懷疑是那個墨西哥裔黑娘們搗的鬼，她找我渣兒不是一回倆回了。怎麼辦？急等支招，謝謝！

作者: cgs5211 時間: 2009-3-7 15:09
要是覺得不舒服，還能找到工作，走人。

要是想治治她，嘿嘿，你必須比她還要壞。具體怎麼做自己慢慢想。

作者: 遙祝 時間: 2009-3-7 18:05
1# travel1111

和她談談，讓她多了解你，以誠相待感動她，那裡都一樣的，都會有一些不和諧的現象的，

作者: xifa 時間: 2009-3-7 23:22
所以千萬別再嚷著華人已經融入主流。華人在外，永遠是二等公民，哪怕你是土生土長的美國人。。。。風緊，扯乎。。。

作者: estella 時間: 2009-3-8 00:42
一是不能哭。先平靜下來。保證自己說話不能哭。
再給miss lamb 說，說要知道那人為何陷害你，當然同時也要說理解她。即然她可以不做調查就上報，而且很嚴肅。看來也不是個好東西。所以她沒個說法，就暗示她以後直接彙報校長。和校長做單線溝通。同時在大家都在場的時，把這事輕描淡寫的說一下。不要表現的太激動。但是說要繼續調查，一定要查出來，為何陷害你。說要找校長調查。讓那人不安。

作者: bumingbai2009 時間: 2009-3-8 01:05
1# travel1111

別難過！先擦乾眼淚，聽我說！
你可以直接把你的Miss Lamb告上法庭，讓法庭去問她，如果她說不出是誰說的，那就是她自己編的，那她就是誣告你的那個人。你可以找一大堆證人證明你根本就不喝酒，你的訴訟請求只要$1,但要求對方付你的律師費和法庭費用，讓他們別老覺得你太老實，要不今後他們永遠會欺負你的！

作者: bumingbai2009 時間: 2009-3-8 01:06
別難過！先擦乾眼淚，聽我說！
你可以直接把你的Miss Lamb告上法庭，讓法庭去問她，如果她說不出是誰說的，那就是她自己編的，那她就是誣告你的那個人。你可以找一大堆證人證明你根本就不喝酒，你的訴訟請求只要$1,但要求對方付你的律師費和法庭費用，讓他們別老覺得你太老實，要不今後他們永遠會欺負你的！

作者: 中南西北 時間: 2009-3-8 02:45
先別急著上法庭，而應收集證據。平靜而又堅韌不拔地收集證據。
校方和那個Lamb說相信你。那好，留下字據。他們向你道歉，留下字據。同事們的證詞，記錄在案。然後你讓校方作出解釋，讓Lamb作出解釋，統統記錄在案。依你的此時的意願，如果你想訴諸法庭，go ahead，律師最喜歡打這種官司了，訴十贏八九。你從事教育工作，師德表率是職業基礎，他們的空穴來風嚴重地影響了你的career。為什麼只訴一元錢？讓律師告訴你訴多少！
華人「進入美國主流社會」的標誌之一就是懂得運用法律保護自己的利益，平權的利益！

作者: gaozhiyong 時間: 2009-3-8 02:59
遇事別哭，一哭人家就會瞧不起你，後面的麻煩會接踵而來。
收集證據，諮詢律師，準備跟她們干一仗。

作者: chirp 時間: 2009-3-8 03:34
遇事不能啞忍, 堅持自己的清白, 搜集證據, 把事情弄清楚來, , ,
不然, 以後的日子更難過!!!

作者: sam333 時間: 2009-3-8 05:24

先別急著上法庭，而應收集證據。平靜而又堅韌不拔地收集證據。
校方和那個Lamb說相信你。那好，留下字據。他們向你道歉，留下字據。同事們的證詞，記錄在案。然後你讓校方作出解釋，讓Lamb作出解釋，統統記錄在案。 ...
中南西北發表於 2009-3-8 02:45

作者: houstonian 時間: 2009-3-8 05:34
你大可以用"種族歧視"作為開始來準備告他們. 當然還是私了比較好.我打過slander的官司,很難贏. 最後還是不了了之. 總之,不能太軟弱. 而且他們還不能以不喜歡你為由辭退你. 我這裡有律師專門打這種官司的. 跟他們學了很多.
PS: 我不是律師,只是個小生意人

作者: travel1111 時間: 2009-3-9 05:27
謝謝大家的留言, 對我很有啟發.
這事發生在上周四下午快放學時. 結果一晚上無眠. 周五早上課前, 剛好除PAUL(He is very nice to me)外其他老師都在. 我突然說：「Miss. Lamb, I report, I smell somebody ate shit!" Mary 正坐在我對面，她問："what?" I said loudly again:" Somebody in our classroom ate shit, bullshit! I smell!" 我看見Miss. Lamb 的臉很難看。那個黑娘兒們Angie 搭腔：「誰聞見誰吃了」。我盯著她說："Are you somebody?" 這時上課鈴響了，Miss Lamb 氣急敗壞地叫來了校長，其他老師也都上課去了。Miss Lamb 說要停止我今天的工作，校長也說我現在的情緒不能工作。其他校長也來了。我說我說那些話是在課前，是在表示我的氣憤，我不會影響工作的，我會給校長寫封信。我可以馬上工作。其實校長平時跟我還是有些交情的，畢竟我老公也是這個學校的副校長。不過第一節課她在我的教室呆了一整節的時間。周末兩天我心情好多了。跟我老公和他的秘書說了事情的經過，他們為我說的話笑個不停，說我說的好。我現在正準備怎麼寫，一定要他們給我個說法，書面的。事情怎麼發展，我會在這裡告訴各位朋友。多謝大家給出主意。

作者: travel1111 時間: 2009-3-9 13:36
這是我給校長的信:
3/9/2009
To: Mrs. Ann Gattis
I am writing this letter to express my feelings and make a request.
Somebody reported me drinking when I work.  Their 「evidence」 was they 「smelled alcohol on my person」. That is really ridiculous. That fact is that was not possible.  If in China, we call this kind of thing is 「To pour dirty water on you」.
It is my right to protect myself, to clear myself, get a written result of investigation stating this allegation was false and there was no truth in it. I deserve this document from you and request that you do so.
At beginning I was really very upset, angry, and hurt. I work hard with positive attitude. I cooperate with others well and feel others treated me friendly, even when sometime I felt somebody likes to boss me around other than Mrs. Lamb. But I think that is up to Mrs. Lamb and not my concern.  I also felt somebody gets special privileges in our classroom. But that』s not my business.  I never complain or mentioned this to anyone but my husband.  I want to be friendly to all and do a good job.  I am hurt and disappointed that anyone I work with could be so mean spirited. It is also hurtful that Mrs. Lamb would not even discuss these reports without at least speaking to me before going to you. This was very disrespectful, not nice, and very unfair. I should be told who did this to me. It is my right to know my accuser. As educators, if we don』t tell truth how can we set example to students?  That is why I asked a meeting. I didn』t mean to fight with somebody. I just want to know why someone would do this. I don』t understand how people can judge others drunk just by 「smelling」?  Did I behave funny? Why did they wait to report  this if they really thought this was truth?  I always think communication is a best to solve the problems. That is why I wanted to hold a meeting to get some answers. But you guys denied.
When I calm down today, I think about all that happened to me.  I work here with gratitude to Mrs. Gattis and Mrs. Lamb because they helped me a lot.  Working hard is the only way to repay and express my thanks for this opportunity. Colleagues here helped me a lot too. I always enjoy my work and feel lucky to work with them until this happened.  This is the second time I have been disrespected and treated poorly. Unbelievable!  Maybe they really didn』t mean to 「pour dirty water」 on me, but why is this strange thing happened. Two people」 smelled?  I have no clue.
I love all students here.  I always trying to do my best to help them to make them happy.  That』s my nature, my personality.  I also do not believe to lie. I am not perfect. That is why I need to learn and I enjoy learning new things. To work here is really a good experience for me. I learned a lot. I hope my hardworking can deserve to be respected.
This unpleasant thing can be surely through. My only request is to give me a document to indicate that there was no evidence to support this charge. That someone made this up to cause me trouble or hurt me.  This should be communicated to all people involved in this.  After I get formal document I will let this pass. I will continue to do my best to be professional for my job.

作者: boomerang 時間: 2009-3-9 23:40
A very good letter! Give your school management just one day to respond and tell them you'll contact the local news media the next day.

You mean it and do it! Don't forget to get the support from the nearest Chinese community in your area. Good luck!

作者: xifa 時間: 2009-3-12 03:13
很臭的信，不該遞上去。。。無論是行文還是思維。。。

作者: tangseng 時間: 2009-3-12 10:56
bad letter
bad idea
可能對女性有用，如果校長是男性，一定被你煩死

1. the letter is too long, way too much whining
2. "If in China, we call this kind of thing is 「To pour dirty water on you」.
ok, stop right here
YOU STUPID, WE ARE NOT IN CHINA!

看到這裡下面的就不用看了

建議寫點facts，use simple English
別和老外玩委婉或者玩修飾，什麼這個disrepect那個unbelievable的，不是你自己的母語又不是你的國家，說這些根本沒用

作者: coolpanda 時間: 2009-3-14 01:00
同意樓上的，太長了，建議列出要點3-5點，點名就行了。

如果我是老闆，讀都懶的讀完。

還有，不要什麼華人，外國人分開，這種事情，國內沒有被人冤枉的，沒有被人打小報告的？

我自己覺得用歧視來掩蓋自身的弱點是非常愚蠢的。

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