標題: I try to remember [列印本頁] 作者: GhostCatcher 時間: 2005-11-20 01:22 標題: I try to remember 1. Everybody Doesn』t Have to Love Me
Not everybody has to love me or even like me. I don』t necessarily like everybody I know, so why should everybody else like me? I enjoy being liked and being loved, but if somebody doesn』t like me, I will still be okay and still feel like I am an okay person. I cannot make somebody like me, any more than someone can get me to like them. I don』t need approval all the time. If someone does not approve of me, I will still be okay.
2. It Is Okay to Make Mistakes
Making mistakes is something we all do, and I』m still a fine and worthwhile person when I make them. There is no reason for me to get upset when I make a mistake. I am trying, and if I make a mistake, I』m going to continue trying. I can handle making a mistake. It is okay for others to make mistakes, too. I will accept mistakes in myself and also mistakes that others make.
3. Other People Are Okay and I Am Okay
People who do things I don』t like are not necessarily bad. They should not necessarily be punished just because I don』t like what they do or did. There is no reason why other people should be the way I want them to be, and there is no reason why I should be the way somebody else wants me to be. People will be whatever they want to be, and I will be whatever I want to be. I cannot control other people or change them. They are who they are; we all deserve basic respect.
4. I Don』t Have to Control Things
I will survive if things are different than what I want them to be. I can accept things they way they are, accept people the way they are, and accept myself in they way I am. There is no reason to get upset if I can』t change things to fir my idea of how they ought to be. There is no reason why I should have to like everything. Even if I don』t like it, I can live with it.
5. I Am Responsible for My Day
I am responsible for how I feel and what I do. Nobody can make me feel anything. If I have a rotten day, I am the one who allowed it to be that way. If I have a great day, I am the one who deserves credit for being positive. It is not the responsibility of other people to change so that I can feel better. I am the one who is in charge of my life.
6. I Can Handle It When Things Go Wrong
I don』t need to watch out for things to go wrong. Things usually go just fine, and when they don』t, I can handle it. I don』t have to waste my energy worrying. The sky won』t fall in; things will be okay.
7. It Is Important to Try
I can. Even though I may be faced with difficult tasks, it is better to try than to avoid them. Avoiding a task doesn』t give me any opportunities for success or joy, but trying does. Things worth having are worth the effort. I might not be able to do everything, but I can do something.
8. I Am Capable
I don』t need someone else to take care of my problems. I am capable. I can take care of myself. I can make decisions for myself. I can think for myself. I don』t have to depend on somebody else to take care of me.
9. I Can Change
I don』t have to be a certain way because of what has happened in the past. Every day is a new day. It』s silly to think I can』t help being the way I am. Of course I can. I can change.
10. Other People Are Capable
I can』t solve other people』s problems for them. I don』t have to take on other people』s problems as if they were my own. I don』 t need to change other people or fix up their lives. They are capable and can take care of themselves, and can solve their own problems. I can care and be of some help, but I can』t do everything for them.
11. I Can Be Flexible
There is more than one way to do something. More than one person has had good ideas that will work. There is no one and only 「best」 way. Everybody has ideas that are worthwhile. Some may make more sense to me than others, but everyone』s ideas are worthwhile, and everyone has something worthwhile to contribute.作者: nozone 時間: 2005-11-21 17:01
i printed it out and i will also try to remember....thanks GhostCahter!作者: cwjjzhou 時間: 2005-11-21 19:13
I completely agree and accept what you mentioned above. the following is just my personal add supplyment.
1. Everybody Doesn』t Have to Love Me
If you can be loved by most of people, that's engough!
2. It Is Okay to Make Mistakes
Nobody is perfect, we are allowed to make mistakes, meanwhile, we need takind time to correct the mistakes and take a lesson from what we have experienced.
3. Other People Are Okay and I Am Okay
This world is and will still keep spinning just because our common effort..
5. I Am Responsible for My Day
If everybody can act that, there is not any incidents happend because of being irresponsible. Hopefully that day will come soon!
6. I Can Handle It When Things Go Wrong
Confidence is so important. Nobody can gurantee things go right all the time, you could meet all kinds of problems, make sure you have a heart of facing challenge.
7. It Is Important to Try
If you don't try, you never know you can do it or not!
8. I Am Capable
Confidence is a half to success. Try to dig your potential ability, you will find you have so many abilties, hopefully you will find this soon.
10. Other People Are Capable
Everybody has his or her strength. they are very capable in some aspects. never look down other people.
11. I Can Be Flexible
Flexibility is a good personality. Giving in some time doesn't mean you can't stand up forever. As a saying goes well, back a step you will find spacious sky. If you have such an attitude, there is no bar you can't go over!!作者: Adelyn 時間: 2005-11-22 14:47
1. Everybody Doesn't Have to Love Me
>> i will feel great as long as i can love and know that i am loved by some people.
4. I Don't Have to Control Things
>> i will follow for most of the time and i will only take initiative when i find it is necessary to turn but the turn doesn't appear.
6. I Can Handle It When Things Go Wrong
>> i will accept it as i believe things go wrong for a reason and think carefully as how the things went wrong.
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thank you Ghost for the nice words!作者: GhostCatcher 時間: 2005-11-23 06:18
welcome every1