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華人媽媽們真應該檢討自己的教育子女的方法!!(原創)

作者:寧靜千年  於 2011-1-24 07:23 發表於 最熱鬧的華人社交網路--貝殼村

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當然教育子女是爸爸和媽媽共同的責任,但是大多數華人家庭都是媽媽唱主角戲!
我們在海外的華人也未能免俗:看一看洛杉磯、紐約的華人各種補習班,望子成龍、鋼琴、舞蹈恨不得自己的子女棋、琴、書畫、舞蹈、武術18般武藝樣樣精通!可憐天下的華人父母心!
虎寶寶給虎長工的信反映出的華人第二代在美國真實的內心情感:她愛媽媽、愛姐姐、但是媽媽姐姐給她的壓力讓她苦悶!
這兩天虎長工在貝殼村閑逛,關注貝殼村的虎媽媽們,沒有及時關注俺家可愛的虎寶寶,今天才看見虎寶寶給爸爸的信,
挺實在、挺有感觸的、聯想到最近有爭議的華人女教授的養女的方法;俺也剖析一下虎寶寶的內心世界,
與大家分享:(虎寶寶說用中文寫太慢,老爸原諒她是在美國生的華人,就讓她用英文寫了,由老爸把有趣的部分翻譯成中文)
3:26 PM     HOME     January 15th 2011     
 Subject:Things that have happened so far in 2011 (二零一一年發生了許多事情)                     
This month there are many things to talk about, things like my birthday, math tests,and cold sickness.
(這一個月有許多事情可以探討,我的生日,算術考試,流感生病等)
My Birthday was filled with creamy red velvet cake with strawberry ice cream. Math tests/quizzes seemed like 19.5/20 and 88/100. Grades on the other hand are doing pretty well, I bet I got straight A's on my report card this quarter.I'm also starting my social studies project this weekend.Sis said she'll take me to the arts/crafts store to buy supplies like clay, and paints. My mood this month is prabrobly overwhelmed.
I feel longing for some time to relax. No more chinese homework and worries.
(我內心渴望身心能夠放鬆。沒有中文作業、沒有憂慮和憂傷)虎寶寶的這句話讓老爸落淚!我們在中國大陸長大的50后,60后
很少會用 feel longing for something, 這個片語,這個片語比其它英文片語更有內涵、更表明12歲的女孩渴望放鬆\渴望減壓。
我太太(虎媽媽)和我的大女兒(虎姐姐)都對這個班的老師滿意(是個實驗班,報名晚了還進不了這個班),就是因為作業多,老師給虎寶寶們留了一大堆作業!這裡虎寶寶還沒有提到她最大的憂慮:就是彈鋼琴,虎寶寶一點都不喜歡彈鋼琴!
虎媽媽和虎姐姐總是在給她無形的壓力!
 Also about 8 kids and teachers at school, me included either had a cold or still have one. I sware that I have the stuffiest nose in the WORLD and probraly blew up 10 pounds of snot this morning!
虎媽媽和虎姐姐對虎寶寶的考試結果還是比較滿意的:都是A!!但可以看出虎寶寶的心情很不好!
她就是渴望能自由的無壓力的讀書、她兩天就可以讀一本書!
 But, on the bright side I made a birthday wish that seems to be coming true and also some new books are coming
out and for once I seem to be having some good luck. Sis even said we might go and buy me a better binder.    
                           From,                    (Sis 是虎寶寶對虎姐姐的昵稱)
                            Hope    P.S~ Dad I hope your reading this. 
讀過虎寶寶的信,俺家的事,俺的責任最大,我的心情挺沉重的,3百60行,我們華人的子女就不能有自己的專業選擇嗎?! 

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回復 小城春秋 2011-1-24 07:28
深刻的反思!
回復 BL_518 2011-1-24 07:29
應該給虎媽和虎姐看看這封信~~
回復 fanlaifuqu 2011-1-24 07:29
一向主張隨意!
回復 冷眼向洋 2011-1-24 07:38
" No more chinese homework and worries." 是可以做到的吧。他們沒有必要非要用中文寫些什麼,能聽懂,能說,足矣。
回復 往事並不如煙 2011-1-24 08:00
父母教育一方面,孩子自己努力更為重要!只要讓孩子知道怎樣做"人"就可以了.
回復 rongrongrong 2011-1-24 08:09
難哪
回復 小溪流 2011-1-24 08:39
還是隨意的好——出自於懶人的道理。
回復 在美一方 2011-1-24 10:24
方舟子有句話很損也很真:很多在美的華人不過是在美國上班而已      雖然他說的是其它方面,但是我覺得拿來形容某些華人父母也蠻恰當
回復 方方頭 2011-1-24 10:53
虎爸虎媽交流先
回復 穿鞋的蜻蜓 2011-1-24 11:18
多交流好。人總是喜歡放鬆的,沒有完美的教育方式,有點壓力也不都是壞事, 了解孩子的興趣和情緒是很重要。
回復 瀟湘妃 2011-1-24 12:20
最看不慣的是有些媽媽逼著孩子學這學那, 自己卻不學無術.
回復 Giada 2011-1-24 12:51
我家孩子既不學鋼琴,也不學中文。
回復 xqw63 2011-1-24 13:04
別信那個虎媽的,咱看到了一個偏執狂
回復 yulinw 2011-1-24 14:28
   那糧票說上學上夠了,俺差點就同意了~~
回復 cartoonyang 2011-1-24 21:02
寧大哥,好好反省!
回復 Cristal 2011-1-24 23:52
反省
回復 芳草 2011-1-25 03:56
都不容易。
回復 微風在微笑 2011-1-25 05:59
提醒的好,值得深思
回復 NikonForFun 2011-1-25 08:58
I think the so-called Tiger mom did great job. What's wrong with her? Okay, let kids do whatever they want? Stop whenever kids complain? Come on! For most kids, one minute homework is too much! Why most of laws are not for kids, or kids don't take responsibility under them? Because they don't know what is correct what is wrong? You parents should take the responsibility for them until they really know something. Of course we can discuss which ways are better than others. That does not mean parents should follow all ideas the kids have. Kids are kids. I believe most people here appreciate what your parents did for you. including something you right now "believe" were too cruel . Why? because the society is cruel, or more cruel than parents'! Anyway one key point, don't abuse your kids but don't make them too comfortable either!
回復 itute 2011-1-25 17:19
實在很難理解一定要孩子學鋼琴的原因
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