Find your own happiness 你找到幸福了嗎？更新附中文

Since childhood, we were told by many adults, if you don't work hard now in school, you won't find happiness in life when you get older...

 

So what is happiness? where do you find it? Happiness means different things to different individuals...some say, happiness is a nice house, a fancy car, a good career and lots of money...some say, happiness comes from within, nothing material from this outside world could ever make you happy, it has to come from your heart....

 

I was born and raised in a blue collar working class family in Beijing,so we don't have a lot of material things to begin with...I remembered my parents always struggled with their finances trying to make ends meet,despite that, I really enjoyed my childhood as a steel factory worker's daughter...As kids, we used to play with other kids a lot around the neighbourhood, catching bugs and climbing trees...I remembered one summer, my mom bought me a pair of new rubber boots, to me, they were the most beautiful green rubber boots I've ever seen in my life, I used to wear them all the time walking in the puddles in the rain, it was so fun and I was so happy with just what I have... 

 

As I grew older, I start to realize money is important, I want nice looking clothes, I want fancy things so that I could show off in front of my peers, I want to be successful - which means at the time to me was to be able to make a lot of money....So from then on, for years I've been working so hard to get what I want in life, I always tell myself, just push myself a little harder, I would be better than others...But I don't think I was happy, I was never satisfied with what I had...and I've always craved for more...

 

2003, I came to Canada, it has changed my view of life forever...now I can tell you with confidence, I found happiness...Happiness is not as mysterious as it seems...Happiness is a feeling from within, it's not really what you own or how much money you have, or whether you have a good career or not... happinese is stress free, happiness is from sharing with others, Happiness is from having love in your life...

 

Just yesterday,me and my husband spent the whole afternoon cooking together, Mashed potatos, stuffing, dill beans,corn, served with gravey...a traditional easter holiday meal..the whole apartment was filled with the fresh smell of roast turkey...it was warm and cozy..even though we don't have fancy furnitures...We watched a movie together, and to finish off, we had cherry pie with cool whip...It was a perfect night...we cuddled together on the couch with our dog Riely...I can't ask for more...

 

You might say, you are not very picky...this doesn't sound like that much fun to me...oh well...you maybe right...but to me, it's something special, I enjoyed my company, I enjoyed my feast, I enjoyed my movie, I enjoyed every little bit of that wonderful evening...

 

Sometimes I think, if you  have a simpler mind, don't dwell too much on what you don't have or what you want to have, but just simply enjoy what you do have in life, you will be a lot more happier...By saying so, I don't mean you should just stop working hard, and wait for the happiness to come to you... I mean you should enjoy what you have right now while working towards what your heart desires and build your future...

 

To a lot of people, being able to eat at a fancy restaurant and being able to drive a fancy car, living in a nice house will only bring satisfaction in life, to me, eating at a "all you can eat" buffet, driving a 5 year old Japanese car, living in a apartment doesn't seem to be that bad, as long as I get to travel around the world, go to all the different countries I want to visit before I reach the age of 50...That's my goal in life...just last year, me and my husband backpacked through England, Scotland, Wales and France, that in itself set my mind and spirit free...I don't have to stay in a 5 star hotel when I travel, even a simple plain bed and breakfast will do, I don't have to take a cab wherever I go...taking the public transit is adventurous and fun...I think I am a free spirit, as long as I get to live a boundary free life, I am happy...

 

So have you found your happiness yet?

 

（聲明：「請大家見量，我盡量翻譯得比較自然，但可能裡面還會有錯別字，我的中文只有中學水平，大家別笑我，謝謝！」）

 

自童年起，大人們就經常對我們說，如果您現在不努力讀書，長大就不會有幸福的日子過。。

  
所以，什麼是幸福？幸福在哪裡？對不同人來說，幸福意味著不同的事情...有人說，幸福是一棟很好的房子，一輛高級轎車，一個好工作和很多錢...有人說，幸福是發自內心的，外在的任何事物自身都很難使你快樂，你要先內心裡有快樂，外在的事物才能讓你快樂。。
  
我出生和長大在一個北京的藍領工人階級家庭，所以我們從小沒有太多的物質的東西...我記得我的父母總是為了維持生計而奔波，儘管如此，我真的很享受我作為一個工廠工人女兒的童年。。記得孩子時代，我們經常和周圍居民家的孩子一起玩，抓昆蟲和爬樹...我記得一個夏天，我媽媽給我買過一對新的膠靴，對我來說，他們是世界上最美麗的綠色的膠靴，我曾經穿的他們在雨中湯河（對不起，這個是錯別字吧？），那段時光多麼的美好難忘啊。
  
後來我長大了，我開始意識到錢是很重要的，我想要穿好看的衣服，想買自己喜歡的東西，這樣我就可以在朋友面前炫耀我的戰利品，我很想成功-那時成功對我的意義就是要掙很多錢....於是從那時起，多年來我一直在努力工作以獲得我想要的生活，我總是告訴自己 ，如果我在努力一點，我就會比別人更好...但是我不是快樂的，我從來沒有感到滿足，我總是渴望更多...
  
2003年，我來到加拿大，這件事永遠改變了我的人生觀...現在的我可以很有信心的告訴你，我找到了幸福...幸福並不是那麼神秘...幸福是一種發自內心的感覺，這種感覺和你有多少錢，有什麼好工作沒有關係，幸福是沒有壓力的，幸福來自與他人的共享，幸福是你的生活中有愛... 
  
昨天，我和我的丈夫花了整個下午做飯，馬鈴薯泥，stuffing(不知中文叫什麼，就是那種麵包屑似的東西），dill豆角（不知道dill中文怎麼說），玉米，牛肉味澆汁 ...一個豐盛的傳統的復活節大餐..整個房間充滿了新鮮的烤好的火雞的味道。。屋子了充滿了溫馨和舒適的氣氛..即使我們沒有華麗的傢具...我們一起看了一部電影，還吃了櫻桃派加cool whip(一種白色的奶油，中文不知道叫什麼）...這是多麼完美的夜晚啊...我和我的小狗都坐在老公的懷裡 ...我還能要求更多嗎？...
  
您可能會說，你不是很挑剔...這聽起來並不像非常有趣，你也可以這麼說...但對我來說，這是很與眾不同的，我喜歡我的家人的陪伴，我很喜歡我的復活節大餐，我很喜歡我的電影，我喜歡這個美好夜晚的一切...
  
有時我想，如果你想的簡單一點，不要太一味的追求你沒有的，只是簡單地享受你現在擁有的一切，你會感到更快樂。。我這麼說，並不是叫你應該停止努力，並等待幸福從天而降...我的意思是你應該享受你現在的一切的同時努力實現你的願望和塑造自己的未來... 
  
在許多人看來，只有能夠去高級餐廳吃飯和能駕豪華車，住大房子才會帶來滿意的生活，對我來說，吃「All you can eat」的自助餐，駕駛一輛5年舊的日本汽車，生活在一個小公寓似乎也不是那麼難耐，只要我能去週遊世界，在我50歲以前可以去便我所有想去的國家我就滿足了.. 。這就是我的人生目標...去年，我和我的丈夫以背包客的身份游遍了英格蘭，蘇格蘭，威爾士和法國，這本身就把我的思想和精神解放了...我們的旅行不需要住在5星級酒店裡，甚至一個簡單的純民宿就可以了，我們不需要到處打車...坐公共交通工具更有挑戰性和冒險性。。我的幸福就是沒有束縛的自由。。有這個就夠了。。
  

你找到了你的幸福嗎？