The futility of nagging

The term "nag" derives from a root word meaning "to nibble or gnaw". The word is itself means to annoy by continual scolding, fault-finding, complaining and urging. Nagging is a waste of time. Wise men don't need it, and fool don't hear it. It is an exercise in futility.

Nagging does not work for a number of reasons. First of all, it is a selfish and egotistical behavior. It focuses attention on self - our opinions, our ideas and our attitudes. It imposes on others' time. We are taking their time to push our point. That isn't being fair or courteous.

Another reason nagging is futile is that it is downright boring. Usually we have heard it all before - many times. We can mimic the words and even the gestures. Nagging is so annoying that our first reaction is to run away.

Not only nagging is selfish and boring, it is also counter-productive. It simply does not work. In fact, it usually backfires. Rather than producing the positive reaction intended, it often stirs anger or brings alienation.

The basic fallacy of nagging is that it features talking, which is not the best way to communicate. In fact, the ears, not the mouth, are the best instrument of comminication. As an old saying goes, "The ears are not made to shut, but the mouth is".

"The ears are not made to shut, but the mouth is".