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對付大嘴巴,不能太阿Q

作者:jannykwong  於 2010-6-28 10:00 發表於 最熱鬧的華人社交網路--貝殼村

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    社會上總有這麼一幫人,終日遊手好閒,無所事事,無聊得整天搬弄是非,將一些僅為道聽途說非親身經歷不清楚事情原委的事件,可以在一堆朋友圈子範圍內添油加醋,妄加批判,甚至可以因為一件道聽途說的事件,在眾人面前像專家般地對一位十多年未曾與其交流的朋友談品論足,說三道四,堪比狗仔隊之母。我對此種「大嘴巴」之人極為厭惡。
      對付這種人,很多人總以阿Q式的態度,諸如 「豈能盡如人意,但求無愧於心」、「走自己的路,讓別人說去吧」或者「清者自清」一笑了之。我以為不然,具體問題具體分析。倘若對方的行為影響到一個人的品行修為在社會大眾心目中的評價,那麼受害者有必要直接跟此人道清事情原委,讓她在弄清事情來龍去脈後有機會反思自己的處事方式是否存有魯莽或不當,日後再遇有同類事件時是否應該加以深思熟慮后才作雄辯高談?清楚自己的不當行為可能對別人產生的影響,清楚需要事事適當規範自己的社會公共行為。
      人與人之間的和諧關係需要你或你周邊群體的所有人去合理維繫。如果每個人均以阿Q式的精神對付「大嘴巴」,那麼「大嘴巴」的生存大軍將會越發壯大,社會和諧將何從談起?!


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回復 lilly13 2010-6-28 10:09
我也不喜歡大嘴巴。
回復 snortbsd 2010-6-28 10:24
the base of 社會和諧 is the rule of laws. but with that, then we need millions lawyers in china...
回復 xqw63 2010-6-28 10:55
大嘴巴有的時候很有價值哦,比如宋祖德,給新聞媒體增加了多少人氣啊
回復 snortbsd 2010-6-28 11:01
xqw63: 大嘴巴有的時候很有價值哦,比如宋祖德,給新聞媒體增加了多少人氣啊
that's because china is a bit lawless right now. he think he has his rights for this "freedom of speech" and he is protected to slender others. in fact, if he was in the states, i could assure you he would have been sued his ass off...
回復 xqw63 2010-6-28 11:04
snortbsd: that's because china is a bit lawless right now. he think he has his rights for this "freedom of speech" and he is protected to slender oth
沒錯,文化不同哦,美國這樣,麻煩就多啦
回復 jannykwong 2010-6-28 11:15
xqw63: 大嘴巴有的時候很有價值哦,比如宋祖德,給新聞媒體增加了多少人氣啊
他八的是名人,普通人不能這樣被人搞。
回復 snortbsd 2010-6-28 11:15
xqw63: 沒錯,文化不同哦,美國這樣,麻煩就多啦
with so many potential plaintiffs, he could land his ass in jail quit easily besides he would have to pay millions $$$ for liability...
回復 xqw63 2010-6-28 11:17
jannykwong: 他八的是名人,普通人不能這樣被人搞。

可以訴諸法律啊
回復 jannykwong 2010-6-28 11:17
lilly13: 我也不喜歡大嘴巴。
對。
回復 xqw63 2010-6-28 11:18
snortbsd: with so many potential plaintiffs, he could land his ass in jail quit easily besides he would have to pay millions $$$ for liability...
好象不那麼簡單,如果輸了民事官司,賬戶上有錢,還得賠錢哦
回復 jannykwong 2010-6-28 11:21
snortbsd: the base of 社會和諧 is the rule of laws. but with that, then we need millions lawyers in china...
你的建議不錯。只是有些事情只能通過道德來規範,不好上升到法律層面。
回復 jannykwong 2010-6-28 11:22
xqw63:
可以訴諸法律啊
還沒達到誹謗的立案標準。
回復 snortbsd 2010-6-28 11:35
xqw63: 好象不那麼簡單,如果輸了民事官司,賬戶上有錢,還得賠錢哦
cases like slandering, defamation are most likely civil, but if he refuses to pay the liability or be evasive to laws, then he could be charged  some sort of felonies...
回復 snortbsd 2010-6-28 11:41
jannykwong: 你的建議不錯。只是有些事情只能通過道德來規範,不好上升到法律層面。
the is exactly one of big differences between chinese legal system and american legal system.

道德? whose 道德? yours? mine? or your grandparents?

if a legal system based on 道德, then we might just go back to the time of tribe leaders, churches, monesteries, preachers...
回復 snortbsd 2010-6-28 11:45
jannykwong: 還沒達到誹謗的立案標準。
well, chinese laws...

not that i think china has no laws, but really the legal system is so young...

current american legal system can be all way traced back to 1600s.

china is long way to go...
回復 jannykwong 2010-6-28 12:02
snortbsd: well, chinese laws...

not that i think china has no laws, but really the legal system is so young...

current american lega
事情的經過我沒在文章中披露,其實很難評論是否達成立案的標準,也很難評論中國法律制度與美國相比怎麼樣的。美國是英美法系,中國是偏向大陸法的社會主義法系,沒有可比性的。
回復 snortbsd 2010-6-28 12:03
jannykwong: 他八的是名人,普通人不能這樣被人搞。
those public figures can easily file civil cases against him
回復 jannykwong 2010-6-28 12:09
snortbsd: the is exactly one of big differences between chinese legal system and american legal system.

道德? whose 道德? yours? mine? or your grandparents?

舉個例子:A在CDEFG面前說B是個言而無信的人。
就這句話,美國能判A的刑嗎?
在中國這是不能的。類似這樣的閑言碎語只能通過道德來約束,來遣責A。如果上升到法律層面,以重典治國,那中國跟回到秦治皇時代有什麼區別?
回復 snortbsd 2010-6-28 12:15
jannykwong: 事情的經過我沒在文章中披露,其實很難評論是否達成立案的標準,也很難評論中國法律制度與美國相比怎麼樣的。美國是英美法系,中國是偏向大陸法的社會主義法系,
no, you should not. you did right thing...

yeah you are right.. kinda apples to oranges...

but the nature of a legal system as arbitrator should be universal, isn't?
回復 snortbsd 2010-6-28 12:25
jannykwong: 舉個例子:A在CDEFG面前說B是個言而無信的人。
就這句話,美國能判A的刑嗎?
在中國這是不能的。類似這樣的閑言碎語只能通過道德來約束,來遣責A。如果上升到法
wow, i didn't say he/she should file the case without any evidences. that why lawyers are needed but also hated in this part of world. ...

china legal system is hardly ever close to the 重典. so what about american legal system? hell?
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