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作者:jannykwong  於 2010-6-27 10:27 發表於 最熱鬧的華人社交網路--貝殼村

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有一客戶因在重大交通事故中負有主要責任而被追究刑事責任,他母親救子心切,希望儘快促成民事調解,以此作為其兒子減刑的法碼。星期天下午,我為促成雙方當事人之間就交通事故賠償事宜達成調解,第一次就該案的賠償事宜與對方當事人律師進行協商談判。由於該客戶酒後駕駛,所以拿不到保險賠償,然而將應賠的十二萬多元減至三萬元,談何容易。他兒子已失業多年,即使這三萬元也都是其父母向別人借的,並計劃從每月不到兩千元的退休金中慢慢償還。在談判中對方已十分體諒我方處境,將賠償數額一降再降,最終願意接受四萬元的賠償。

     為了不想讓兩老人家為兒子背負太多債務,我始終堅持三萬元。這樣,雙方一直在三、四萬元之間僵持不下。突然,他母親失聲痛哭,還差點跪地乞求對方律師答應我方的條件,她哭訴實在不希望兒子坐監,但又沒有太多錢救兒子。我對他母親的舉動感到很突然,沒有想到她可以為兒子這樣做。(她有嚴重的冠心病,不能太激動)在安慰她的同時,我自己也忍不住了,第一次在雙方當事人面前失態。事後,當對方律師知道我與他一樣,免費代理該案,答應我回去盡量說服當事人。兩天後,對方律師告訴我,其當事人同意以三萬五千元與我方達成調解。
     事是辦妥了,但我的心情一直很壓抑,怎麼也高興不起來。原來兒女出事,傷害最大的往往是父母。


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回復 snortbsd 2010-6-27 11:35
personally i have no sympathy for drunk driving offenses. i think they must pay fully for their stupidity or even crimes, depends on the scenarios.

driving while intoxicated is normally charged as a misdemeanor, or  felony, depends on the situations. if someone was injured as a result of the drunk driving, in some states, the offender will be charged for felony. more if the victim dies, some states will charge the driver with reckless homicide.

recently, increasing number of states, a driving under influnce offender will be charged for felony if it is the driver's second, third offense.

the charge of misdemeanors can carry the possibility of incarceration in the county or local jail for up to one year ; felonies usually result in a state prison term for more than a year. of course, all of those punishment will come with hefty fines!!!
回復 jannykwong 2010-6-27 11:48
我也不同情因為酒後駕駛發生車禍的人,只是同情他們為此事日夜操心的父母。
回復 jannykwong 2010-6-27 11:48
snortbsd: personally i have no sympathy for drunk driving offenses. i think they must pay fully for their stupidity or even crimes, depends on the scenarios.

我也不同情因為酒後駕駛發生車禍的人,只是同情他們為此事日夜操心的父母。
回復 snortbsd 2010-6-27 11:55
jannykwong: 我也不同情因為酒後駕駛發生車禍的人,只是同情他們為此事日夜操心的父母。
those 日夜操心的父母 are one of root problems for chinese society. in such environment, kids grow up with no sense of responsibility.

in the states, we have saying:"if you do the crime then you do the time". it is well understood and well accepted as the rule of the society.

maybe that 日夜操心的父母 should spend some time in jail to learn the lessons of the rule of laws...
回復 jannykwong 2010-6-27 12:29
「養兒一百歲,長憂九十九。」這是大多中國父母的通病,他們大多難以做到像西方父母的瀟脫。
回復 jannykwong 2010-6-27 12:30
snortbsd: those 日夜操心的父母 are one of root problems for chinese society. in such environment, kids grow up with no sense of responsibility.

in the states,
「養兒一百歲,長憂九十九。」這是大多中國父母的通病,他們大多難以做到像西方父母的瀟脫。
回復 snortbsd 2010-6-27 12:50
jannykwong: 「養兒一百歲,長憂九十九。」這是大多中國父母的通病,他們大多難以做到像西方父母的瀟脫。
it isn't 瀟脫! it is sad part of our value system.
回復 lilly13 2010-6-27 14:41
真是好律師。
回復 jannykwong 2010-6-27 14:58
lilly13: 真是好律師。
謝謝!對方的律師也是個好律師。
回復 jannykwong 2010-6-27 15:03
snortbsd: it isn't 瀟脫! it is sad part of our value system.
中國父母在對待自己的孩子上需要改變觀念,不能無休止的呵護,如何讓他們自立自強才是重要的。
回復 yulinw 2010-6-27 17:30
jannykwong: 中國父母在對待自己的孩子上需要改變觀念,不能無休止的呵護,如何讓他們自立自強才是重要的。
同意~~~
回復 紅妹子 2010-6-28 00:05
jannykwong: 中國父母在對待自己的孩子上需要改變觀念,不能無休止的呵護,如何讓他們自立自強才是重要的。
是這樣,儘管親情可貴,護子心切,該是誰的責任就要誰來承擔。
回復 陳營 2010-6-28 00:50
再一次看到母親的偉大,這個世界上有人願意為你去死的只有她--母親。

向這位母親致敬
回復 華東方 2010-6-28 02:01
jannykwong: 中國父母在對待自己的孩子上需要改變觀念,不能無休止的呵護,如何讓他們自立自強才是重要的。
同意
回復 gyyy 2010-6-28 05:46
your mercy to the driver and his parents is cruelty to the victim and her/his family. It is very unprofessional. There is no difference between DUI and murder. the driver should've been put in jail or at least paid the full amount.
回復 xqw63 2010-6-28 06:29
為樓主鼓掌,為那個媽媽流淚
回復 trump 2010-6-28 06:48
這個媽媽就沒有教育孩子不能酒後駕駛?
回復 彩舟雲淡 2010-6-28 08:03
可憐天下父母心啊做孩子的也應該為父母想想拉
回復 snortbsd 2010-6-28 08:30
jannykwong: 中國父母在對待自己的孩子上需要改變觀念,不能無休止的呵護,如何讓他們自立自強才是重要的。
well, that is one of my points. also the sense of responsibility for whatever you do in life.

animals also have this "偉大的母love", could we human being go beyond that? why doesn't our humanly, this 偉大的中國母love come with something like teaching our youngs that they must take care of the consequences of their own actions? did she ever consider that victim(s) of this crime? she should have let her son do his time in jail to pay for his mistake in life, instead of buying him out of troubles. to me, that would be true motherly love. yes, touch love, is true love for human kind...

i will forever remembered my grandma's story that a son (who was a thief, robber, and murderer) bit his mother's nipple out right before his execution.

roughly this story goes: when he was kid, he stole things from neighbors. his mother didn't stop him and fought for him with neighbors. when he grew a bit older, he robbed, his mother hid things for him instead of reporting the crime. later he killed. eventually he was caught and condemned to die. the last request from him was to suck milk one more time from his mother breast....
回復 snortbsd 2010-6-28 08:34
well, from perspective of lawyers, you did whatever your client requested, gave her the best result...

but for me, i just have very little sympathy for that mother...
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